The Power of Proximity, Frequency, and Shared Interests in Friendship—and Why It’s Central to Moonlight Collective

As we continue to create spaces where people can gather and connect through shared passions, reflecting on the deeper psychology behind how friendships form is helpful. You may have noticed that some friendships happen naturally, while others take more time or shared experiences to grow. What makes those connections click? Research points to a few key factors: proximity, frequency of interaction, and shared interests.

Proximity and Frequency: A Winning Combination

Proximity has long been shown to be a crucial factor in friendship formation. Being physically close to someone gives you the opportunity for those spontaneous, casual encounters that foster familiarity and, eventually, trust. But proximity alone isn't always enough—it's the frequency of those interactions that truly helps a bond develop. Studies show that regular contact increases the likelihood of forming and maintaining friendships​ (PLOS)​ (Frontiers).

Think back to your childhood—how often were your best friends the ones who lived next door or sat beside you in class? The same applies to adulthood. Parents often form connections with other parents at school drop-offs or with coworkers they see daily. The more frequently we encounter someone, the more comfortable and familiar they become.

Shared Interests: The Glue that Strengthens Bonds

Proximity and frequency help initiate friendships, but shared interests often turn acquaintances into lifelong friends. Having common passions or experiences makes it easier to relate and feel understood. Research shows that friendships based on shared interests tend to be stronger and longer-lasting, built on mutual understanding and enthusiasm.

At Moonlight, we bring people together by combining the power of proximity, frequent interactions, and shared interests. Our gatherings—whether it's art workshops, cooking classes, or outdoor activities—are designed to foster natural, meaningful connections. The shared passions create instant rapport, while the intimate, in-person settings encourage spontaneous interactions that help friendships blossom. By offering regular opportunities to reconnect, we ensure these bonds grow deeper over time. At the heart of it all, Moonlight is about creating spaces where community can flourish, allowing people to feel connected and seen.

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